It is not important how united and harmonized is the couple, before wedding they will have to fight with difficult struggle – to draw up list of wedding guests. Place of wedding and purse also have their limit, for that reason carefully think about what people presence do you want in your wedding. While you doing this rather difficult work, discuss all the pros and cons, calculate and the most important – be realistic!
Two lists
Make your dream list – write all that comes into your mind – without any limitations. After that you come down to earth. You need to coordinate guest list with your budget resources and with your guest house roominess. It is inescapable that some of them will drop away. To make decision easier – which one to invite and which what not – make two guest lists: A and B. In first list write those who certainly need to be there – family, relatives and select friends. In second list write those that you can do without – for example, colleagues, distant relatives, classmates from secondary school that haven’t seen for a long time and the like.
You can surely invite about 10% more guests than you planned, because usually that big part from inviters refuses their participation. If fall away more inviters than logically invite those from B list. If comes situation that few weeks before wedding their presence confirm less visitors than reserved and paid places than invite somebody from B list, of course, previously apologize about that big delay.
Colleagues
Since you spend a lot of time at work, you can have a desire to invite your colleagues to your wedding. There comes a question – which one of them? It is important in how big company do you work. If the range of your colleagues is small, for example 3 persons, than better invite all of them. If it is whole department where works many people and you have good contact with all of them, than this choice is harder. In this case, invite those that you meet also after work, because they certainly are something more than just colleagues.
Children
Weddings where participate many little children, for somebody (in vantage for children parents) can turn into fun, but somebody that kind of weddings can’t like. You need to look by situation. One, two or three children won’t make trouble; you just need to tell their parents that they need to watch over them. If you decide that you don’t want children presence in your wedding, than tell it duly to your guests so they can take account of that and can agree with somebody who will watch over their children. If somebody object against that, than tell them that this condition is related to everyone and that it wouldn’t be fair if somebody will have children with them and somebody won’t.
List diminishing
If you followed given examples, but still instead of 80 guests you have 120, you need to look through this list again. Choose those people who are most important to you that without them you can’t imagine your wedding. Think about that who of them relevant to your life now and who you want to see near to you after 5 years.
Remember that you don’t have to necessarily invite those couples in which wedding were you if you don’t have close contact as before.
